Are There New Rules For Who Pays For The Wedding?

Are There New Rules For Who Pays For The Wedding?

When it comes to weddings, traditional norms dictate who is responsible for covering various expenses. However, in modern times, wedding traditions have evolved. Is there a new etiquette for wedding expenses? We explore the topic of who pays for the wedding below. Continue reading for the customary costs associated with both partners, as well as contemporary alternatives.

Traditional Expenses – Bride & Family

Traditionally, there are certain expenses related to the wedding that the bride and her family pay for. These include:

  • Wedding Planner
  • Invitations and announcements
  • Wedding gown and accessories
  • Floral decorations for the ceremony and reception
  • The bouquet
  • Music for reception and at the church
  • Transportation of wedding party on the wedding day
  • All wedding reception expenses – venue, food, décor, etc.
  • Photographer and videographer
  • Attendant gifts
  • Wedding day gift for spouse
  • Spouse’s wedding ring

While not everything on this list applies to all weddings, this is traditionally what is paid for.

Traditional Expenses – Groom & Family

When it comes to wedding expenses that the groom and his family pay for, the list is a bit shorter. It includes:

  • Spouse’s wedding ring
  • Tux or Suit
  • All costs for the rehearsal dinner
  • Officiant’s fee
  • Marriage license
  • Transportation for their attendants to the ceremony
  • Boutonnieres for attendants
  • Corsages for immediate family members
  • Wedding day gift for spouse
  • Attendants’ gifts
  • Honeymoon expenses

As you can see, while typically less expensive, the groom and his family still have expenses.

Modern Solutions to Wedding Expenses

When it comes to modern weddings, these rules don’t always apply. While you can certainly go the traditional route, couples these days tend to split things more evenly. In many cases, the couple takes on the entire cost of the wedding and their families don’t pay anything. Regarding the new rules for who pays for the wedding, the answer is that it is up to the couple! With modern weddings, really, anything goes. Traditions that have been around for generations are often dropped or changed, and that can include who pays for what. Whatever works for you as a couple is the best way to handle wedding expenses.

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